A second person has turned up pregnant this week after "giving up". I am thrilled for her. She is an oldtimer like myself. It is very encouraging, but at the same time, makes me realize how random this all is. It is very possible to become pregnant in your 40's....but bringing it about seems to be very unpredictable. After watching so many go through cycles with a fertility clinic (IVF, IUI, etc) and failing and then seeing some of those very same women become pregnant on break cycles.....I don't know......I just feel that I don't know which way to turn. I feel that doing cycles with fertility drugs ups the odds......but perhaps I'm just kidding myself? I do know that more and more women I know are catching that golden egg......so I gotta keep the faith. It really does seem to happen when you least expect it.......but it is so hard not to have those expectations.